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Patricia, once a New Jersey Girl, and Judy, an almost lifelong Minnesotan come together to talk about sex! Why? To normalize and discover our own awareness in this crazy U.S. culture we live in. (Yes, we really CAN talk about sex in Minnesota!) We are looking to, by our conversations, encourage and facilitate positive, healthy, authentic shifts in our relationship with sex. Topics inspired by what is on our mind, in the news or YOU! We love listener questions and topic suggestions. So many of us could use a little help figuring out how to think, how to talk about and uncover our own true thoughts, feelings, fears. finding our sexual, authentic self… well, it is a process. And, it’s always fun to talk about sex! Join us!

Latest Episodes

Can You Use Your Vibrator Too Much?

EWHAT DID WE TALK ABOUT? Lots of stuff about vibrators and using them on your own or with play partners. Dead vagina syndrome… Does this REALLY happen??Clitoris going numb??Numbness to prickly pussy Can you be addicted to your vibrator?Vibrator or sex as a dependency. Toys and keeping them clean. What might cause numbness that may be worth checking out medically. POWER TOOLS!!! A nod to Halloween! – A vaginal campfire story! Article Is It Possible To Use Your Vibrator Too Much? by Kelsey Borresenhttps://www.huffpost.com/entry/use-vibrator-too-much_l_5daa27a3e4b08cfcc31b5282?fbclid=IwAR1YGcKzliwzKDIMFcPTxUGLjtqrz4P2oH5eHu-kHqNkkSt5K8bHm0PP8_g Eleven Things To Do With Old Dildos Patricia helps us find ways to keep that gift on giving! https://www.thepowerexchange.co/blog/old_dildo-ideas Wellness Ren Podcast Episode Episode 105 – Comedy that Furthers the Cultural Conversation with Comedian Danielle Thralow – Part 1https://wellnessrenpodcast.com/podcast/episode-105-comedy-that-furthers-the-cultural-conversation-with-comedian-danielle-thralow-part-1/ EXTRA FUN Vaginal Dentatahttps://outtake.tribecashortlist.com/beyond-teeth-the-cultural-history-of-vagina-dentata-60e9f020d557 TEETH The MovieTrailer: https://youtu.be/yH8yuld4DUE Laid – TV Show – Can be found as of 11/08/2019 on Amazon Prime Video

48 MIN4 d ago
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Can You Use Your Vibrator Too Much?

If you Wake Up and Your Husband is Having Sex with You… is it Rape?

EWhat would YOU do if you woke up while your husband was in the middle of having sex with you? Would you consider this act of non consent rape? We have a listener with just this question. Hear what we know of her story We share findings of our very informal research polls. Does he get full access to her because she is his wife? We share our thoughts, questions and perspectives. What do YOU think?? We invite YOUR thoughts on Facebook or on the show episode notes. AND… PSA… The what and why of Stormy Daniels previous unsafe, safe word. Loraina Bobbitt:Since we brought her up…https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_and_Lorena_Bobbitt

44 MIN1 w ago
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If you Wake Up and Your Husband is Having Sex with You… is it Rape?

BDSM - What is the Difference Between BDSM and Abuse - Part 3

ELISTENER QUESTION (Thank you listener!) Is BDSM a healthy sexual activity? As a feminist I’m instantly turned off. How can this be a loving sexual dynamic? STUFF WE TALKED ABOUT… Everyday life values/sexual values Intention, impact and beyond. RACK – Risk Aware Consensual Kink BDSM and abuse – Intent and impact. A clear description of the differences of BDSM and abuse. “BDSM is the use of sensation to illicit pleasure… “ BDSM & Feminism: The Two Can Coexist — Lachrista Greco Includes BDSM VS ABUSE charthttps://medium.com/@lachristagreco/bdsm-feminism-the-two-can-coexist-6f06977f291e Cycle of violence from patriciahttp://www.sjsu.edu/spartansforsafety/healthyrelationships/overview/cycleofviolence/index.html YES, NO, MAYBE LISTS – Some options http://selfservetoys.com/resourcecenter/favorite-yesnomaybe-lists-available-online/

35 MIN2 w ago
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BDSM - What is the Difference Between BDSM and Abuse - Part 3

BDSM and Feminism – Can they Co-exist - Listener Question - Part 2

EThe listener question “IS BDSM a healthy sexual activity? As a feminist I’m instantly turned off. How can this be a loving sexual dynamic?” WHAT DID WE TALK ABOUT? Can you be submissive and a feminist? Where BDSM fits in with feminism and knowing ones self. Patricia talks about her own role as a submissive in her relationship and what ingredients make it happy and successful. Communication! Keeping your relationship spicy! What are the parts/stages of a BDSM scene? It is so much more than just the scene. And that is where the magic happens in the relationship, the experience and for the participant personally. More about Patricia’s Birthday experience and after care. “On the rack”… The rack described And more! YES, NO, MAYBE LISTS – Some optionshttp://selfservetoys.com/resourcecenter/favorite-yesnomaybe-lists-available-online/ Cycle of violence http://www.sjsu.edu/spartansforsafety/healthyrelationships/overview/cycleofviolence/index.html

42 MIN3 w ago
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BDSM and Feminism – Can they Co-exist - Listener Question - Part 2

What is BDSM – Inspired by Listener question – Part 1

EQuestion: “IS BDSM a healthy sexual activity? As a feminist I’m instantly turned off. How can this be a loving sexual dynamic?” -Justine WHAT DID WE TALK ABOUT! A little history on BDSM – And why people might have a negative opinion of BDSM… (Or better stated… why culture has sent this attitude through generation by generation not actually knowing the historic origins… as we do so many things! AHHH the human condition!) What IS BDSM stand for? (There is a lot packed in those little letters!) What IS IT? Who participates? **The movie was Exit to Eden. As I recall the book was better?? It’s been YEARS!!! Can participating in BDSM be healthy? A look into roles CONSENT, CONSENT, CONSENT! Patricia’s birthday spankings! The responsibility of love and care for both the top and bottom from and for each other. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201206/loving-introduction-bdsm

45 MINOCT 10
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What is BDSM – Inspired by Listener question – Part 1

Arranged Marriages - A Thought Provoking Perspective

EWHAT DID WE TALK ABOUT Arranged marriages… Some interesting and thought provoking pros and cons. (Maybe great for those of us who STINK at decision making!) Patricia shares a little about her “the one” story.

33 MINOCT 5
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Arranged Marriages - A Thought Provoking Perspective

You, Plus Me, Plus Your Phone… Makes an Orgy

EHow many people are we allowing into our bedroom… into our sex life… when we bring our phone to bed? Patricia’s phone routine. (Wonder how we’d all feel if we were able to follow her lead? It sure is something to think about… how do the little things affect us!?) Phone apps and the questions they cause in our relationships… inspire in ourselves? Phones, Phone apps, insecurity jealousy. Opening the door for cheating? Patricia’s fear for humanity. “IF he paid as much attention to me as phone…” What parental controls do we put on ourselves to keep us balanced? AN article Judy found with some lovely ideas for using our phones for good!https://nypost.com/2018/08/15/phones-turn-bedrooms-a-no-sex-zone/

44 MINSEP 26
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You, Plus Me, Plus Your Phone… Makes an Orgy

How Can You be Sex/Body Positive Without Being TOO Sex/Body Positive - Listener Question

ETHE QUESTION FROM THE LISTENER… How can you be sex/body positive without being too sex/body positive? We didn’t want our son to have any hang ups about sex so from a very early age we tried to teach that all body parts were perfectly normal and fine. And we tend to walk around naked. Now that he’s older (but still prepubertal), he sometimes wants to poke my breasts (in a teasing, nonsexual way), and touch penis tips with his dad (because it’s funny). We are trying to figure out how to explain that all body parts are normal but some body parts are still kind of off limits in certain ways. THINGS WE TALKED ABOUT… Ages where kids can begin to understand consent Fluid Boundaries VS walls and rules Boundaries and psychological health Privacy VS secrecy Positive reinforcement Intent of the child is play… Whose property is a pregnant belly? A sense of humor that feels like bullying Staying in our power in our body but respectfully flexing out boundary muscles… how do we do that? Fam...

57 MINSEP 19
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How Can You be Sex/Body Positive Without Being TOO Sex/Body Positive - Listener Question

Prostate part 2 - Sex without penetration

EThoughts and ideas to help both men and women engage when there is a prostate, or other, issue challenging their penetrative sex life. Sex without penetration… what can I do if that is off the table?A few things we touched on Mutual masturbation… ideas and benefits!SkyDancing tantraKunyaza – Check this out ladies and gents)Cuddling parties for intimacyMilking the prostate Pain…to pleasure/intense sensation to orgasm… CAREFULLY! Communicating with your doctor about what “sex” means when there are restrictions. NOTE! This podcast is for informational purposes only. ALWAYS check with your doctor if there is pain, blood in your urine, etc. Be safe!

29 MINSEP 13
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Prostate part 2 - Sex without penetration

Supporting the Prostate You Love, Part 1

EInspired by a doctor visit! Let’s talk about the prostate! Where is it, what is it and why it is so important? IT KEEPS GROWING! Things you can do to HELP? LifestyleHomeopathicMedicinalSurgical – “Turp” Kegels for men! How do you do it?? DANCE BABY DANCE! How you and your partner engage as part of the treatment for prostate and ED (Erectile Dysfunction). Milking the prostate… how do you do that? And other ways to move the inflammation. What exactly qualifies as losing your virginity?? Join us for part 2 next week where we will have even more for your prostate or you if you have a prostate-having loved one… REALLY loved one! We’ll talk more about What is sex and a sex act?Adult sex educationThe stripper slide and MUCH more about sex that is NOT penetrative sex! Learn more about Patricia and her work as a Sexual Authenticity Coach on the Wellness Renaissance Podcast:Episode 68 – Patricia Engelking – Sexual Authenticity Coach Patricia’s Book – Crossing the River Called Suffe...

43 MINSEP 6
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Supporting the Prostate You Love, Part 1
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Latest Episodes

Can You Use Your Vibrator Too Much?

EWHAT DID WE TALK ABOUT? Lots of stuff about vibrators and using them on your own or with play partners. Dead vagina syndrome… Does this REALLY happen??Clitoris going numb??Numbness to prickly pussy Can you be addicted to your vibrator?Vibrator or sex as a dependency. Toys and keeping them clean. What might cause numbness that may be worth checking out medically. POWER TOOLS!!! A nod to Halloween! – A vaginal campfire story! Article Is It Possible To Use Your Vibrator Too Much? by Kelsey Borresenhttps://www.huffpost.com/entry/use-vibrator-too-much_l_5daa27a3e4b08cfcc31b5282?fbclid=IwAR1YGcKzliwzKDIMFcPTxUGLjtqrz4P2oH5eHu-kHqNkkSt5K8bHm0PP8_g Eleven Things To Do With Old Dildos Patricia helps us find ways to keep that gift on giving! https://www.thepowerexchange.co/blog/old_dildo-ideas Wellness Ren Podcast Episode Episode 105 – Comedy that Furthers the Cultural Conversation with Comedian Danielle Thralow – Part 1https://wellnessrenpodcast.com/podcast/episode-105-comedy-that-furthers-the-cultural-conversation-with-comedian-danielle-thralow-part-1/ EXTRA FUN Vaginal Dentatahttps://outtake.tribecashortlist.com/beyond-teeth-the-cultural-history-of-vagina-dentata-60e9f020d557 TEETH The MovieTrailer: https://youtu.be/yH8yuld4DUE Laid – TV Show – Can be found as of 11/08/2019 on Amazon Prime Video

48 MIN4 d ago
Comments
Can You Use Your Vibrator Too Much?

If you Wake Up and Your Husband is Having Sex with You… is it Rape?

EWhat would YOU do if you woke up while your husband was in the middle of having sex with you? Would you consider this act of non consent rape? We have a listener with just this question. Hear what we know of her story We share findings of our very informal research polls. Does he get full access to her because she is his wife? We share our thoughts, questions and perspectives. What do YOU think?? We invite YOUR thoughts on Facebook or on the show episode notes. AND… PSA… The what and why of Stormy Daniels previous unsafe, safe word. Loraina Bobbitt:Since we brought her up…https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_and_Lorena_Bobbitt

44 MIN1 w ago
Comments
If you Wake Up and Your Husband is Having Sex with You… is it Rape?

BDSM - What is the Difference Between BDSM and Abuse - Part 3

ELISTENER QUESTION (Thank you listener!) Is BDSM a healthy sexual activity? As a feminist I’m instantly turned off. How can this be a loving sexual dynamic? STUFF WE TALKED ABOUT… Everyday life values/sexual values Intention, impact and beyond. RACK – Risk Aware Consensual Kink BDSM and abuse – Intent and impact. A clear description of the differences of BDSM and abuse. “BDSM is the use of sensation to illicit pleasure… “ BDSM & Feminism: The Two Can Coexist — Lachrista Greco Includes BDSM VS ABUSE charthttps://medium.com/@lachristagreco/bdsm-feminism-the-two-can-coexist-6f06977f291e Cycle of violence from patriciahttp://www.sjsu.edu/spartansforsafety/healthyrelationships/overview/cycleofviolence/index.html YES, NO, MAYBE LISTS – Some options http://selfservetoys.com/resourcecenter/favorite-yesnomaybe-lists-available-online/

35 MIN2 w ago
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BDSM - What is the Difference Between BDSM and Abuse - Part 3

BDSM and Feminism – Can they Co-exist - Listener Question - Part 2

EThe listener question “IS BDSM a healthy sexual activity? As a feminist I’m instantly turned off. How can this be a loving sexual dynamic?” WHAT DID WE TALK ABOUT? Can you be submissive and a feminist? Where BDSM fits in with feminism and knowing ones self. Patricia talks about her own role as a submissive in her relationship and what ingredients make it happy and successful. Communication! Keeping your relationship spicy! What are the parts/stages of a BDSM scene? It is so much more than just the scene. And that is where the magic happens in the relationship, the experience and for the participant personally. More about Patricia’s Birthday experience and after care. “On the rack”… The rack described And more! YES, NO, MAYBE LISTS – Some optionshttp://selfservetoys.com/resourcecenter/favorite-yesnomaybe-lists-available-online/ Cycle of violence http://www.sjsu.edu/spartansforsafety/healthyrelationships/overview/cycleofviolence/index.html

42 MIN3 w ago
Comments
BDSM and Feminism – Can they Co-exist - Listener Question - Part 2

What is BDSM – Inspired by Listener question – Part 1

EQuestion: “IS BDSM a healthy sexual activity? As a feminist I’m instantly turned off. How can this be a loving sexual dynamic?” -Justine WHAT DID WE TALK ABOUT! A little history on BDSM – And why people might have a negative opinion of BDSM… (Or better stated… why culture has sent this attitude through generation by generation not actually knowing the historic origins… as we do so many things! AHHH the human condition!) What IS BDSM stand for? (There is a lot packed in those little letters!) What IS IT? Who participates? **The movie was Exit to Eden. As I recall the book was better?? It’s been YEARS!!! Can participating in BDSM be healthy? A look into roles CONSENT, CONSENT, CONSENT! Patricia’s birthday spankings! The responsibility of love and care for both the top and bottom from and for each other. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/all-about-sex/201206/loving-introduction-bdsm

45 MINOCT 10
Comments
What is BDSM – Inspired by Listener question – Part 1

Arranged Marriages - A Thought Provoking Perspective

EWHAT DID WE TALK ABOUT Arranged marriages… Some interesting and thought provoking pros and cons. (Maybe great for those of us who STINK at decision making!) Patricia shares a little about her “the one” story.

33 MINOCT 5
Comments
Arranged Marriages - A Thought Provoking Perspective

You, Plus Me, Plus Your Phone… Makes an Orgy

EHow many people are we allowing into our bedroom… into our sex life… when we bring our phone to bed? Patricia’s phone routine. (Wonder how we’d all feel if we were able to follow her lead? It sure is something to think about… how do the little things affect us!?) Phone apps and the questions they cause in our relationships… inspire in ourselves? Phones, Phone apps, insecurity jealousy. Opening the door for cheating? Patricia’s fear for humanity. “IF he paid as much attention to me as phone…” What parental controls do we put on ourselves to keep us balanced? AN article Judy found with some lovely ideas for using our phones for good!https://nypost.com/2018/08/15/phones-turn-bedrooms-a-no-sex-zone/

44 MINSEP 26
Comments
You, Plus Me, Plus Your Phone… Makes an Orgy

How Can You be Sex/Body Positive Without Being TOO Sex/Body Positive - Listener Question

ETHE QUESTION FROM THE LISTENER… How can you be sex/body positive without being too sex/body positive? We didn’t want our son to have any hang ups about sex so from a very early age we tried to teach that all body parts were perfectly normal and fine. And we tend to walk around naked. Now that he’s older (but still prepubertal), he sometimes wants to poke my breasts (in a teasing, nonsexual way), and touch penis tips with his dad (because it’s funny). We are trying to figure out how to explain that all body parts are normal but some body parts are still kind of off limits in certain ways. THINGS WE TALKED ABOUT… Ages where kids can begin to understand consent Fluid Boundaries VS walls and rules Boundaries and psychological health Privacy VS secrecy Positive reinforcement Intent of the child is play… Whose property is a pregnant belly? A sense of humor that feels like bullying Staying in our power in our body but respectfully flexing out boundary muscles… how do we do that? Fam...

57 MINSEP 19
Comments
How Can You be Sex/Body Positive Without Being TOO Sex/Body Positive - Listener Question

Prostate part 2 - Sex without penetration

EThoughts and ideas to help both men and women engage when there is a prostate, or other, issue challenging their penetrative sex life. Sex without penetration… what can I do if that is off the table?A few things we touched on Mutual masturbation… ideas and benefits!SkyDancing tantraKunyaza – Check this out ladies and gents)Cuddling parties for intimacyMilking the prostate Pain…to pleasure/intense sensation to orgasm… CAREFULLY! Communicating with your doctor about what “sex” means when there are restrictions. NOTE! This podcast is for informational purposes only. ALWAYS check with your doctor if there is pain, blood in your urine, etc. Be safe!

29 MINSEP 13
Comments
Prostate part 2 - Sex without penetration

Supporting the Prostate You Love, Part 1

EInspired by a doctor visit! Let’s talk about the prostate! Where is it, what is it and why it is so important? IT KEEPS GROWING! Things you can do to HELP? LifestyleHomeopathicMedicinalSurgical – “Turp” Kegels for men! How do you do it?? DANCE BABY DANCE! How you and your partner engage as part of the treatment for prostate and ED (Erectile Dysfunction). Milking the prostate… how do you do that? And other ways to move the inflammation. What exactly qualifies as losing your virginity?? Join us for part 2 next week where we will have even more for your prostate or you if you have a prostate-having loved one… REALLY loved one! We’ll talk more about What is sex and a sex act?Adult sex educationThe stripper slide and MUCH more about sex that is NOT penetrative sex! Learn more about Patricia and her work as a Sexual Authenticity Coach on the Wellness Renaissance Podcast:Episode 68 – Patricia Engelking – Sexual Authenticity Coach Patricia’s Book – Crossing the River Called Suffe...

43 MINSEP 6
Comments
Supporting the Prostate You Love, Part 1
the END
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