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Parenting On Purpose

Parenting On Purpose

Parenting On Purpose

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The Reason for Chores | Part 5

Getting Out Of The Way

14 MINAPR 17
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The Reason for Chores | Part 5

The Reason for Chores | Part 4

Implementing Chores Many parents ask the question should allowance be attached to chores? The response is what are we training them for? The purpose of training up a child is to ready them for adulthood. There are many jobs that we as adults have to do around the house. I donâ€t remember ever receiving a paycheck for doing dishes, laundry or taking out the trash. One of the purposes of chores is to teach children that there are things that we do simply to be a contributing member of a family. There may be extra jobs that are not considered regular chores, such as cleaning out the refrigerator or cleaning windows, that could be done to earn some extra cash. This teaches a child to go above and beyond what is simply required of them. These extra jobs can also be used as consequences, without pay, for chores not done. Many parents then ask how do I get my child to doÂhousehold chores? We discussed yesterday setting up a reward/consequence plan for chores. We as adults do have a reward for household chores-a clean and relaxing living space. Think of some rewards,not monetary, that will motivate your child as well as consequences for chores not done. Listen to todayâ€s podcast for more insight on chores.

14 MINAPR 16
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The Reason for Chores | Part 4

The Reason for Chores | Part 3

Chores Teach A Child To Choose We discussed yesterday that chores train a child to do what is responsible rather then what is pleasurable. The question is where is a parent to start? The concept of chores is something that can start as early as preschool with simple tasks. In our house, we are working with our three-year-old son teaching him how to clean up after himself. He picks up one set of toys before bringing out another. Of course it would be MUCH faster, and I probably wouldnâ€t have to sing the clean up song, if I just ran around after him straightening. If I consistently did the work for him, however, then he wouldnâ€t be ready for the next step, cleaning his room on his own. For any child utilizing the ICE plan is key for chores. Instruct them what your expectation is. Tell them ahead of time what the consequence is for not completing the chore and what the reward is for completing the chore to your expectation. Finally and sometimes most difficultly we ha...

14 MINAPR 15
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The Reason for Chores | Part 3

The Reason for Chores | Part 2

Why Itâ€s So Important Why is it so important to fight the chores battle as parents? There are four main reasons. First there is nothing that teaches a child personal responsibility as well as chores. It teaches a child to make the choice between what they want to do and what they need to do. This learned responsibility translates into many adult situations from credit cards to sexuality. Chores can communicate that a child is needed. Every part of the family pitches in to help out. It can also help to teach a child how to take initiative as well as learning the importance of excellence. If I do something right the first time I wonâ€t have to go back and fix it. Lastly it prepares a child for emancipation from the home. We have laughed about how many college freshman have no idea how to do laundry. But simply teaching a child how to do chores helps them to learn basic household management skills.  For more on why chores are such an important area to train your chil...

14 MINAPR 15
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The Reason for Chores | Part 2

The Reason for Chores | Part 1

Why Donâ€t We Give Our Kids Chores Anymore? This week will be spent talking about the importance of children doing household chores. The interesting thing is that it seems overall families donâ€t prioritize their children doing chores. Why is this? There are many reasons for this but it seems that the main reason is time. We are all very busy from adults to children in the home, our schedules are jam-packed. The priority of chores has fallen by the wayside. It also takes a lot of time put in by the parent. It takes time to train your child how to do the chore. It takes time to inspect the chores and make sure that they are done to your standard. It also takes time to correct mistakes, as well as time to cheer when the chore is done right. This is why many parents shy away from the job of training their children to do chores. “It just seems faster and easier to do it myself. “ Chores are an important part of training a child however. There are many l...

14 MINAPR 14
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The Reason for Chores | Part 1

Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 5

Learning About Your Spouse and Physical Intimacy Make sure to take the time to learn your spouse. Are they the kind of person who likes surprises or do they need time in advance to adjust to ideas? When planning activities to help get out of a rut learning this may be key, to not only actually getting out and doing them but making sure that both spouses enjoy the process. This is even something that you can sit and do together. Together you can process through a list of things that would be fun to do as a family or on date night. If both spouse are involved in this process then both can be excited and looking forward to these activities. Then make sure to put the list on the family calendar. You can never be married to long to bring romance back into the marriage relationship. Sexual intimacy is something that you only share with your spouse. It is special and sacred that is why it is also something that should not be ignored. For more on this topic click here to h...

15 MINMAR 20
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Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 5

Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 4

Never Settle For Less There are things we can do to make the marriage exciting. ÂWe need to find ways to get out of the routine. ÂThere does need to be some one on one time set aside with your spouse. ÂMake sure to make time for date nights, but you can even set aside the time after the children go to bed for something fun for just the two of you. ÂIf you have older children that have a later bedtime, there can be a set time that they spend in their room before “lights out†in order for there to be time for your relationship. There are many ways to incorporate fun back into the marriage. ÂOne of the ways to help a marriage not get mundane, is focusing on the friendship aspect of the relationship. ÂÂClick here to see the week long series on how to become your spouses best friend. Â

15 MINMAR 19
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Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 4

Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 3

Never Quit Trying Itâ€s interesting how we think of having an infant or small children as an exciting time/phase of life. It is draining, but we will still label it as exciting or never a dull moment. If we stop to think about it a baby canâ€t give anything back yet we are continually meeting their needs. Sure we may have moments of feeling overwhelmed with the magnitude of the task of caring for them but we still do it with out the expectation of anything from them. Why?…Because we love them. How is this any different from our spouse? We should be continually working on and putting into the relationship, because we love them. Our society has trained us to look for quick fixes, but the marriage relationship is not a quick fix. It is a life long relationship. We need to make sure that we are doing our part. There will most assuredly be times where our spouse because of stress, other things going on in their life or even lack of knowing how, canâ€t give in t...

15 MINMAR 18
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Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 3

Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 2

Choose To Prioritize Your Marriage We need to be prepared to build a team or “become one fleshâ€. There are things that can hinder this process that we need to work through. The first is expectations. Often our expectations of how marriage will be, often unrealistic and influenced by Hollywood, can taint our attitude about real life marriage. Check out our week long series on expectations by clicking here. ÂVery likely, because we are different genders and different personalities we will need to learn how our spouse communicates in order to do it effectively. Click here for more on this topic. Another reason that marriage can become boring is because we donâ€t take the time to make it a priority. Click here for more on this. Finally many donâ€t know how to “work on the relationshipâ€. We need to give of ourselves rather then just waiting for things to get better. Make sure to continue making your marriage a priority! Â

15 MINMAR 17
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Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 2

Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 1

The Relationship Takes Work We try to talk about the topic of marriage here on Parenting on Purpose, once a month. Here are some of the reasons we feel that it is so important to discuss. First, if you are married, the parenting wonâ€t work to its potential if the marriage isnâ€t working. Second, your marriage is training your children how to do their marriage in the future. ÂYour marriage gives your children a secure environment or an insecure environment. Your marriage is a team of two people with different complimenting gifts which, when working together, can divide up the training tasks and bless the children. Lastly, your marriage is the team that builds the child or hinders their potential. It is the foundation the children can grow up on. One thing that may shock us as we get married is that marriage is work. It takes work to make two separate lives, personalities, backgrounds and families into one life. It is continued work. If we donâ€t continue to gi...

15 MINMAR 16
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Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 1

Latest Episodes

The Reason for Chores | Part 5

Getting Out Of The Way

14 MINAPR 17
Comments
The Reason for Chores | Part 5

The Reason for Chores | Part 4

Implementing Chores Many parents ask the question should allowance be attached to chores? The response is what are we training them for? The purpose of training up a child is to ready them for adulthood. There are many jobs that we as adults have to do around the house. I donâ€t remember ever receiving a paycheck for doing dishes, laundry or taking out the trash. One of the purposes of chores is to teach children that there are things that we do simply to be a contributing member of a family. There may be extra jobs that are not considered regular chores, such as cleaning out the refrigerator or cleaning windows, that could be done to earn some extra cash. This teaches a child to go above and beyond what is simply required of them. These extra jobs can also be used as consequences, without pay, for chores not done. Many parents then ask how do I get my child to doÂhousehold chores? We discussed yesterday setting up a reward/consequence plan for chores. We as adults do have a reward for household chores-a clean and relaxing living space. Think of some rewards,not monetary, that will motivate your child as well as consequences for chores not done. Listen to todayâ€s podcast for more insight on chores.

14 MINAPR 16
Comments
The Reason for Chores | Part 4

The Reason for Chores | Part 3

Chores Teach A Child To Choose We discussed yesterday that chores train a child to do what is responsible rather then what is pleasurable. The question is where is a parent to start? The concept of chores is something that can start as early as preschool with simple tasks. In our house, we are working with our three-year-old son teaching him how to clean up after himself. He picks up one set of toys before bringing out another. Of course it would be MUCH faster, and I probably wouldnâ€t have to sing the clean up song, if I just ran around after him straightening. If I consistently did the work for him, however, then he wouldnâ€t be ready for the next step, cleaning his room on his own. For any child utilizing the ICE plan is key for chores. Instruct them what your expectation is. Tell them ahead of time what the consequence is for not completing the chore and what the reward is for completing the chore to your expectation. Finally and sometimes most difficultly we ha...

14 MINAPR 15
Comments
The Reason for Chores | Part 3

The Reason for Chores | Part 2

Why Itâ€s So Important Why is it so important to fight the chores battle as parents? There are four main reasons. First there is nothing that teaches a child personal responsibility as well as chores. It teaches a child to make the choice between what they want to do and what they need to do. This learned responsibility translates into many adult situations from credit cards to sexuality. Chores can communicate that a child is needed. Every part of the family pitches in to help out. It can also help to teach a child how to take initiative as well as learning the importance of excellence. If I do something right the first time I wonâ€t have to go back and fix it. Lastly it prepares a child for emancipation from the home. We have laughed about how many college freshman have no idea how to do laundry. But simply teaching a child how to do chores helps them to learn basic household management skills.  For more on why chores are such an important area to train your chil...

14 MINAPR 15
Comments
The Reason for Chores | Part 2

The Reason for Chores | Part 1

Why Donâ€t We Give Our Kids Chores Anymore? This week will be spent talking about the importance of children doing household chores. The interesting thing is that it seems overall families donâ€t prioritize their children doing chores. Why is this? There are many reasons for this but it seems that the main reason is time. We are all very busy from adults to children in the home, our schedules are jam-packed. The priority of chores has fallen by the wayside. It also takes a lot of time put in by the parent. It takes time to train your child how to do the chore. It takes time to inspect the chores and make sure that they are done to your standard. It also takes time to correct mistakes, as well as time to cheer when the chore is done right. This is why many parents shy away from the job of training their children to do chores. “It just seems faster and easier to do it myself. “ Chores are an important part of training a child however. There are many l...

14 MINAPR 14
Comments
The Reason for Chores | Part 1

Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 5

Learning About Your Spouse and Physical Intimacy Make sure to take the time to learn your spouse. Are they the kind of person who likes surprises or do they need time in advance to adjust to ideas? When planning activities to help get out of a rut learning this may be key, to not only actually getting out and doing them but making sure that both spouses enjoy the process. This is even something that you can sit and do together. Together you can process through a list of things that would be fun to do as a family or on date night. If both spouse are involved in this process then both can be excited and looking forward to these activities. Then make sure to put the list on the family calendar. You can never be married to long to bring romance back into the marriage relationship. Sexual intimacy is something that you only share with your spouse. It is special and sacred that is why it is also something that should not be ignored. For more on this topic click here to h...

15 MINMAR 20
Comments
Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 5

Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 4

Never Settle For Less There are things we can do to make the marriage exciting. ÂWe need to find ways to get out of the routine. ÂThere does need to be some one on one time set aside with your spouse. ÂMake sure to make time for date nights, but you can even set aside the time after the children go to bed for something fun for just the two of you. ÂIf you have older children that have a later bedtime, there can be a set time that they spend in their room before “lights out†in order for there to be time for your relationship. There are many ways to incorporate fun back into the marriage. ÂOne of the ways to help a marriage not get mundane, is focusing on the friendship aspect of the relationship. ÂÂClick here to see the week long series on how to become your spouses best friend. Â

15 MINMAR 19
Comments
Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 4

Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 3

Never Quit Trying Itâ€s interesting how we think of having an infant or small children as an exciting time/phase of life. It is draining, but we will still label it as exciting or never a dull moment. If we stop to think about it a baby canâ€t give anything back yet we are continually meeting their needs. Sure we may have moments of feeling overwhelmed with the magnitude of the task of caring for them but we still do it with out the expectation of anything from them. Why?…Because we love them. How is this any different from our spouse? We should be continually working on and putting into the relationship, because we love them. Our society has trained us to look for quick fixes, but the marriage relationship is not a quick fix. It is a life long relationship. We need to make sure that we are doing our part. There will most assuredly be times where our spouse because of stress, other things going on in their life or even lack of knowing how, canâ€t give in t...

15 MINMAR 18
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Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 3

Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 2

Choose To Prioritize Your Marriage We need to be prepared to build a team or “become one fleshâ€. There are things that can hinder this process that we need to work through. The first is expectations. Often our expectations of how marriage will be, often unrealistic and influenced by Hollywood, can taint our attitude about real life marriage. Check out our week long series on expectations by clicking here. ÂVery likely, because we are different genders and different personalities we will need to learn how our spouse communicates in order to do it effectively. Click here for more on this topic. Another reason that marriage can become boring is because we donâ€t take the time to make it a priority. Click here for more on this. Finally many donâ€t know how to “work on the relationshipâ€. We need to give of ourselves rather then just waiting for things to get better. Make sure to continue making your marriage a priority! Â

15 MINMAR 17
Comments
Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 2

Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 1

The Relationship Takes Work We try to talk about the topic of marriage here on Parenting on Purpose, once a month. Here are some of the reasons we feel that it is so important to discuss. First, if you are married, the parenting wonâ€t work to its potential if the marriage isnâ€t working. Second, your marriage is training your children how to do their marriage in the future. ÂYour marriage gives your children a secure environment or an insecure environment. Your marriage is a team of two people with different complimenting gifts which, when working together, can divide up the training tasks and bless the children. Lastly, your marriage is the team that builds the child or hinders their potential. It is the foundation the children can grow up on. One thing that may shock us as we get married is that marriage is work. It takes work to make two separate lives, personalities, backgrounds and families into one life. It is continued work. If we donâ€t continue to gi...

15 MINMAR 16
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Help! My Marriage Has Gotten Boring | Part 1
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