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His and His

Matthew and Paul

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His and His

His and His

Matthew and Paul

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Join creative couple Matthew and Paul as they explore provocative questions about love, relationships, and culture. Support His and His on Patreon and get weekly extended episodes, a monthly bonus episode, and more! More info at: http://Patreon.com/hisandhis

Latest Episodes

Gay Proposals: Down on Both Knees

EMatthew and Paul discuss the topic of marriage proposals. Matthew reveals a childhood fantasy of being swept off his feet, while Paul reminisces about the romantic comedies that shaped his youth. Matthew and Paul also explain how they decided who would propose when it came to their own engagement. And, finally, the hosts kick off a new segment of the show called “The Love Manual”. Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

28 MIN4 d ago
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Gay Proposals: Down on Both Knees

Pornography: Sin Juice and Family Jewels

EMatthew and Paul are talking abut gay pornography. Paul remembers the moment he saw porn for the very first time, while Matthew describes the day he was caught watching porn on the family computer (while holding the family jewels). Matthew and Paul also discuss their individual journeys with shame, and how they learned to overcome those feelings. Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

26 MIN1 w ago
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Pornography: Sin Juice and Family Jewels

Relationships: Friends Who Fight

EMatthew and Paul are working on their relationship, and they spend this episode sharing the details of that journey. They discuss the importance of a foundational friendship, the use of “positive sentiment override”, and why fighting isn’t the sign of a relationship in ruin. Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

26 MIN2 w ago
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Relationships: Friends Who Fight

Ask Me Anything: Warm Days, Hot Guys

EWelcome to our first AMA, courtesy of the His and His Patreon Family. No question is too big, too small, or too personal. Matthew and Paul discuss their plans for the future, what inspires them most about each other, and whether or not they have a “Free Pass”. If you’re interested in getting your very own AMA episode, become a Major Benefactor at https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

32 MIN3 w ago
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Ask Me Anything: Warm Days, Hot Guys

Hookups: One Night Stands and FWBs

EMatthew and Paul dive head first into the topic of hookups. They reveal their best and worst hookup stories, and discuss the crucial differences between a hookup, F-buddy, and Friends With Benefits. To join the His and His Family and listen to this entire episode, visit: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

11 MINJUL 13
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Hookups: One Night Stands and FWBs

Life After Cult: Matthew’s Journey Out of Darkness

EOn last week’s episode, Paul interviewed Matthew about the 10 years he and his family spent in the Advanced Training Institute; a cult started by self-proclaimed prophet, Bill Gothard. This week, the conversation continues as Matthew describes leaving the isolated world of the cult and adjusting to the “real world” for the first time. What excited him? What scared him? And most importantly, how did he grow? Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

24 MINJUL 6
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Life After Cult: Matthew’s Journey Out of Darkness

Survivor: 10 Years in a Cult

EOn this special episode of His and His, Paul interviews Matthew about the decade he and his family spent trapped in a religious cult. From boyhood until his early twenties, Matthew belonged to an elite group called the Advanced Training Institute. Founded by a charismatic and often eccentric leader named Bill Gothard, ATI eventually accumulated thousands of devoted followers around the world. Matthew describes how he and his family fell into the cult life, the many abuses of power he witnessed, and the moment he felt that his life was over. Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

25 MINJUN 29
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Survivor: 10 Years in a Cult

Virginity: Pain and Pleasure

EMatthew and Paul discuss losing their virginity. Paul describes how his first time involved an episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer, while Matthew explains how losing his virginity led to a 5-year relationship. Matthew and Paul also talk about their religious upbringings, and how Christianity colored their view of virginity from a young age. Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

22 MINJUN 22
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Virginity: Pain and Pleasure

Flirting: Locker Rooms and Elevators

EMatthew and Paul discuss the many nuances of flirting. Matthew describes his favorite flirting story with a speedo-clad gymnast, and Paul talks candidly about an unwanted experience that forever changed the way he flirts. Matthew and Paul also talk about the importance of trust in their relationship while answering the question, “Can flirting be considered cheating?” Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

25 MINJUN 15
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Flirting: Locker Rooms and Elevators

Talk Therapy: Attempting Suicide and Surviving Cults

EMatthew and Paul discuss their experience with talk therapy. Paul remembers his first therapy session in a church basement, while Matthew describes how Dialectic Behavior Therapy changed his life after leaving the cult. Matthew and Paul also talk about their discovery of Lifespan Integration Therapy, and how it has allowed them to heal from past traumas. To read more about the therapies discussed on this show, visit the His and His Patreon Page. Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

22 MINJUN 8
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Talk Therapy: Attempting Suicide and Surviving Cults

Latest Episodes

Gay Proposals: Down on Both Knees

EMatthew and Paul discuss the topic of marriage proposals. Matthew reveals a childhood fantasy of being swept off his feet, while Paul reminisces about the romantic comedies that shaped his youth. Matthew and Paul also explain how they decided who would propose when it came to their own engagement. And, finally, the hosts kick off a new segment of the show called “The Love Manual”. Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

28 MIN4 d ago
Comments
Gay Proposals: Down on Both Knees

Pornography: Sin Juice and Family Jewels

EMatthew and Paul are talking abut gay pornography. Paul remembers the moment he saw porn for the very first time, while Matthew describes the day he was caught watching porn on the family computer (while holding the family jewels). Matthew and Paul also discuss their individual journeys with shame, and how they learned to overcome those feelings. Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

26 MIN1 w ago
Comments
Pornography: Sin Juice and Family Jewels

Relationships: Friends Who Fight

EMatthew and Paul are working on their relationship, and they spend this episode sharing the details of that journey. They discuss the importance of a foundational friendship, the use of “positive sentiment override”, and why fighting isn’t the sign of a relationship in ruin. Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

26 MIN2 w ago
Comments
Relationships: Friends Who Fight

Ask Me Anything: Warm Days, Hot Guys

EWelcome to our first AMA, courtesy of the His and His Patreon Family. No question is too big, too small, or too personal. Matthew and Paul discuss their plans for the future, what inspires them most about each other, and whether or not they have a “Free Pass”. If you’re interested in getting your very own AMA episode, become a Major Benefactor at https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

32 MIN3 w ago
Comments
Ask Me Anything: Warm Days, Hot Guys

Hookups: One Night Stands and FWBs

EMatthew and Paul dive head first into the topic of hookups. They reveal their best and worst hookup stories, and discuss the crucial differences between a hookup, F-buddy, and Friends With Benefits. To join the His and His Family and listen to this entire episode, visit: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

11 MINJUL 13
Comments
Hookups: One Night Stands and FWBs

Life After Cult: Matthew’s Journey Out of Darkness

EOn last week’s episode, Paul interviewed Matthew about the 10 years he and his family spent in the Advanced Training Institute; a cult started by self-proclaimed prophet, Bill Gothard. This week, the conversation continues as Matthew describes leaving the isolated world of the cult and adjusting to the “real world” for the first time. What excited him? What scared him? And most importantly, how did he grow? Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

24 MINJUL 6
Comments
Life After Cult: Matthew’s Journey Out of Darkness

Survivor: 10 Years in a Cult

EOn this special episode of His and His, Paul interviews Matthew about the decade he and his family spent trapped in a religious cult. From boyhood until his early twenties, Matthew belonged to an elite group called the Advanced Training Institute. Founded by a charismatic and often eccentric leader named Bill Gothard, ATI eventually accumulated thousands of devoted followers around the world. Matthew describes how he and his family fell into the cult life, the many abuses of power he witnessed, and the moment he felt that his life was over. Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

25 MINJUN 29
Comments
Survivor: 10 Years in a Cult

Virginity: Pain and Pleasure

EMatthew and Paul discuss losing their virginity. Paul describes how his first time involved an episode of Buffy the Vampire Slayer, while Matthew explains how losing his virginity led to a 5-year relationship. Matthew and Paul also talk about their religious upbringings, and how Christianity colored their view of virginity from a young age. Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

22 MINJUN 22
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Virginity: Pain and Pleasure

Flirting: Locker Rooms and Elevators

EMatthew and Paul discuss the many nuances of flirting. Matthew describes his favorite flirting story with a speedo-clad gymnast, and Paul talks candidly about an unwanted experience that forever changed the way he flirts. Matthew and Paul also talk about the importance of trust in their relationship while answering the question, “Can flirting be considered cheating?” Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

25 MINJUN 15
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Flirting: Locker Rooms and Elevators

Talk Therapy: Attempting Suicide and Surviving Cults

EMatthew and Paul discuss their experience with talk therapy. Paul remembers his first therapy session in a church basement, while Matthew describes how Dialectic Behavior Therapy changed his life after leaving the cult. Matthew and Paul also talk about their discovery of Lifespan Integration Therapy, and how it has allowed them to heal from past traumas. To read more about the therapies discussed on this show, visit the His and His Patreon Page. Join Our Family Support His and His on Patreon and get monthly bonus episodes, weekly extended episodes, and more! More info: https://www.patreon.com/hisandhis

22 MINJUN 8
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Talk Therapy: Attempting Suicide and Surviving Cults
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