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Sex Matters.

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Patricia, once a New Jersey Girl, and Judy, an almost lifelong Minnesotan come together to talk about sex! Why? To normalize and discover our own awareness in this crazy U.S. culture we live in. (Yes, we really CAN talk about sex in Minnesota!) We are looking to, by our conversations, encourage and facilitate positive, healthy, authentic shifts in our relationship with sex. Topics inspired by what is on our mind, in the news or YOU! We love listener questions and topic suggestions. So many of us could use a little help figuring out how to think, how to talk about and uncover our own true thoughts, feelings, fears. finding our sexual, authentic self… well, it is a process. And, it’s always fun to talk about sex! Join us!

Latest Episodes

Judy and Patricia Pause for an Experimental Phase

Judy and Patricia are taking a bit of a sabbatical from releasing podcast episodes as we both make some huge life shifts, focus on additional projects, education, regrouping and opening the door to possibilities. Please feel free to continue sending us questions and topic ideas through the website or facebook! We LOVE to hear from you! Some fun finds to share with you all! Girl Boner: The Good Girl’s Guide to Sexual Empowerment by August McLaughlinhttps://amzn.to/3eg4qh8 Hannah Gadsby: Douglas – Official Trailer – Netflix CONTACT https://www.patriciaengelking.com/ Her book – Crossing the River Called Suffering, by Patricia Engelkinghttps://amzn.to/2Ehpcg You can find the original episode, episode 68, at The Wellness Renaissance Podcasthttps://wellnessrenpodcast.com/

5 MINJUN 21
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Judy and Patricia Pause for an Experimental Phase

Relationship Doula through Sexual Authenticity - An Updated Throwback

EIt is summer and there are a lot of shift and changes for everyone it seems. They are also happening for Patricia and Judy. Good changes! We want to share one with you now! Patricia has broadened her work and scope over the last few years! Sexual authenticity and the power exchange are very much at the base of her work… but she is expanding that to becoming a Relationship Doula. What is that, you ask! Well, she will tell you in our introduction! The short version is helping couples move through transition together toward the outcome they want to have. Learn more and the new offerings she has with the expanded work. Then we will head into to playing you the original, entire episode we did on The Wellness Renaissance Podcast. That information all still applies with the expanded work she is doing today! What is a sexual authenticity coach? Why is it so important for us to find and know our true authentic sexual self? What can be gained in our relationship with ourselves, our partners ...

95 MINJUN 13
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Relationship Doula through Sexual Authenticity - An Updated Throwback

Listener Question – What Do I Do When My Wife Chooses Grandmother Role Over Intimate Lover

EMark is a 68 year old, healthy man who has a high sex drive. His wife is choosing the grandmother role over that of his sex partner and intimate connection. They have been married for over 40 years. He still wants her but she is saying she is done. He wants to know what to do and where to find that intimate connection. Listen to the detailed question and Patricia and Judy share their perspective and advice. RESOURCES MENTIONED BOOKS Mating in Captivity By Esther Perelhttps://amzn.to/3cFg2Zs The State of Affairs By Esther Perelhttps://amzn.to/374tLrz AASECTAmerican Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapistshttps://www.aasect.org/find-professional/listing/1/4373 Thank YOU for listening! We truly appreciate you! SexMattersPodcast.comhttps://sexmatterspodcast.com/ Send in your questions, topics you’d love to hear us talk about, we love to hear from you.Leave a reviewSign up for the email list and get a PDF of daily positive sex affirmationsConsider supporting our wor...

50 MINJUN 5
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Listener Question – What Do I Do When My Wife Chooses Grandmother Role Over Intimate Lover

Amidst the Chaos - Brief Note

No notes today…No episode today…No words…

1 MINJUN 3
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Amidst the Chaos - Brief Note

Emily Nagoski – Best Selling Author and Sex Educator - A Wellness Ren CrossOver

EThis week we are sharing a full and uncut episode Judy did 1 year ago, May of 2019, from the Wellness Renaissance Podcast Archives. This is the full recording of that podcast. It was a fantastic interview and we wanted to share it and Emily with you all.Enjoy…. Emily is a Sex Educator, an expert on women’s sexual well-being, healthy relationships, and the prevention of sexual violence and harassment. If her name sounds familiar, you may know her from her best selling book, Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that will Transform your Sex Life, or various TED talks. (links below) (She also has a recent book with her sister Amelia called, Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle.) So much thought provoking, life changing stuff in here for women and anyone else who has ever had sex, might have sex or born from someone having sex! What did we talk about?? How cultural narratives have changed over time, what it teaches us right away when someone assigns us as a boy or g...

74 MINMAY 23
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Emily Nagoski – Best Selling Author and Sex Educator - A Wellness Ren CrossOver

A Late Mothers Day Tribute - Explorations of MILFS and GILFS

ENOTE… no, we are sorry… Chris Collingwood of Fountains of Wayne/Stacy’s Mom fame is alive and well! Sadly, however, the base player… and famous for MANY other cool things, Adam Schlesinger, did die on April 1st from complications of Covid-19. HAPPY late MOTHERS DAY! An appreciation to all the Mom’s out there… for if they didn’t exist… neither would we. What did we talk about? The popularity of MILFs Mom… she is a sexual creature. Permission to BE a sexual creature. MILFS… what is the intrigue? The draw? The complexity… The nurturer Shame Taboo Incestuous intrigue She is through a lot of the relationship drama Knows what she wants or excited to explore. The draw and honor of being chosen BY a MILF She is a teacher She ix experienced, in tune with her sexuality. Ready to enjoy the experience and pleasure. Confident. She can take control. Why MILF instead of a dominatrix? Why not a DILF? OLD PEOPLE HAVE SEX!! Get used to it and embrace it! Happy mother’s day to anyone with ...

52 MINMAY 15
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A Late Mothers Day Tribute - Explorations of MILFS and GILFS

Will My Partner Know I Have Had Sex with Another Person After Sex with Him

EA listener dropped us a note with a question”44″“Can my boyfriend know that I’ve made love with another guy after making love with him?” We explore the physical and biological aspects of this question… as opposed to the ethical conundrum. Does your body give you away?BiologyPenis or toy sizeHow close the timing of events are and how long it takes your body to recover, How tuned into you your partner is to you and your body Hygiene Safe sex practicesEtc. We share some responses from men who kindly respond with their experiences and thoughts around this question… can you tell if your partner has had sex with another person before you. Gang bangs… 300… OOFDAH!? YOU GO Annabel Chong! (Annabel never got paid her 10k… so say the interwebs. COME ON RON JERAMY… WHAT IS UP WITH THAT!?!) Episiotomies… Be aware of your surgeon’s plan to give you good “customer service” with an extra stitch that may cause some serious pain afterwards. Thank YOU for listening! We truly appreciate ...

44 MINMAY 9
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Will My Partner Know I Have Had Sex with Another Person After Sex with Him

Alien Sex Fantasies

EInspired by the UFO sightings in Duluth. https://mix108.com/there-have-been-two-ufo-sightings-in-the-duluth-area-in-2020/(OK, it was on the list but it rose to the top due to the articles Judy read about recent sightings in Duluth, MN.) Lots to explore here… this is what we touched on. A popular fetish. Exophilia is the love of strange, new, extraterrestrial, robotic, supernatural, or otherwise non-human life-forms. It can be considered as a sexual form of neophilia. People with exophilia have a desire to be with non-human life forms, but that are essentially human in an alien form. It also is linked to the belief of otherworldly entities, energies, and/or beings. Mythos from other cultures tell of spirit/alien/demigod/etc. couplings with humans that are sexual in nature, which gives hint that perhaps at one time exophilia was possibly more common. (From Wikipedia) One thing it is missing… enthusiastic consent. The book and movie Entity??… I did NOT find the book or movie to matc...

73 MINMAY 2
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Alien Sex Fantasies

A Penis Episode Follow Up… Why Can’t We All Just Get Along?

After listening to our penis episodes we thought a few things maybe came out NOT as we had intended…. This week was kinda the conversation we were going to have last week… NEXT week… Alien sex…. But, listen to this first!) WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT Social distancing with a loved one… Do you need your alone time? Toilet paper… we share our views and current situations in our homes about the proper toilet paper direction for US! (Yep… we got deep out of the gate on this one!) “The whole world just needs to accept everybody’s differences.” – Patricia Getting to know each other authentically as individuals. Body positivity. Making judgment… our fight or flight response…Comes from a place of…Fear of lossFear of rejectionFear of failureFear of the unknown Ahhh, the challenges of being human… Wanting to say the right thing at the right time. Charms school anyone?? Asking permission to create welcome spaces to receive your observations in conversations. PATRICIA’S CURRENT OFFERIN...

65 MINAPR 24
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A Penis Episode Follow Up… Why Can’t We All Just Get Along?

A Paisley Journey - Sex in a Box, Bliss, Tea-gasms, Communication and Connecting

EPatricia and I had a lovely conversation. We went in with a topic that we never quite got to… I present to you, the finished product. Enjoy our philosophical therapy session. Here is what we talked about STUFF LOTS of stuff De-stressing and EscapismWhy do we have this small box that we put sex into? The resistance of acknowledging it is all around us in various forms and flavors. Connection!Finding soul focus from ego focusTalking to kids about sex.Memories, living in a state of bliss and orgasmsdo we remember the best, the worst?7 levels of energyChoosing bliss…TEA-GASM!! Fill your day with “Tea-Gasms!” Enjoy life!This time we have… right now. Going with the flow or the resistance?How do we get out of the patterns where talking about sex is bad and hard?… no matter where and when we are in life!It’s never too late! RESOURCES FOR PARENTS Book for children The Amazing True Story of How Babies are Made by Fiona Katauskasfionakatauskas.com/the-amazing-true-story-of-how-babies-ar...

89 MINAPR 17
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A Paisley Journey - Sex in a Box, Bliss, Tea-gasms, Communication and Connecting
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Latest Episodes

Judy and Patricia Pause for an Experimental Phase

Judy and Patricia are taking a bit of a sabbatical from releasing podcast episodes as we both make some huge life shifts, focus on additional projects, education, regrouping and opening the door to possibilities. Please feel free to continue sending us questions and topic ideas through the website or facebook! We LOVE to hear from you! Some fun finds to share with you all! Girl Boner: The Good Girl’s Guide to Sexual Empowerment by August McLaughlinhttps://amzn.to/3eg4qh8 Hannah Gadsby: Douglas – Official Trailer – Netflix CONTACT https://www.patriciaengelking.com/ Her book – Crossing the River Called Suffering, by Patricia Engelkinghttps://amzn.to/2Ehpcg You can find the original episode, episode 68, at The Wellness Renaissance Podcasthttps://wellnessrenpodcast.com/

5 MINJUN 21
Comments
Judy and Patricia Pause for an Experimental Phase

Relationship Doula through Sexual Authenticity - An Updated Throwback

EIt is summer and there are a lot of shift and changes for everyone it seems. They are also happening for Patricia and Judy. Good changes! We want to share one with you now! Patricia has broadened her work and scope over the last few years! Sexual authenticity and the power exchange are very much at the base of her work… but she is expanding that to becoming a Relationship Doula. What is that, you ask! Well, she will tell you in our introduction! The short version is helping couples move through transition together toward the outcome they want to have. Learn more and the new offerings she has with the expanded work. Then we will head into to playing you the original, entire episode we did on The Wellness Renaissance Podcast. That information all still applies with the expanded work she is doing today! What is a sexual authenticity coach? Why is it so important for us to find and know our true authentic sexual self? What can be gained in our relationship with ourselves, our partners ...

95 MINJUN 13
Comments
Relationship Doula through Sexual Authenticity - An Updated Throwback

Listener Question – What Do I Do When My Wife Chooses Grandmother Role Over Intimate Lover

EMark is a 68 year old, healthy man who has a high sex drive. His wife is choosing the grandmother role over that of his sex partner and intimate connection. They have been married for over 40 years. He still wants her but she is saying she is done. He wants to know what to do and where to find that intimate connection. Listen to the detailed question and Patricia and Judy share their perspective and advice. RESOURCES MENTIONED BOOKS Mating in Captivity By Esther Perelhttps://amzn.to/3cFg2Zs The State of Affairs By Esther Perelhttps://amzn.to/374tLrz AASECTAmerican Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapistshttps://www.aasect.org/find-professional/listing/1/4373 Thank YOU for listening! We truly appreciate you! SexMattersPodcast.comhttps://sexmatterspodcast.com/ Send in your questions, topics you’d love to hear us talk about, we love to hear from you.Leave a reviewSign up for the email list and get a PDF of daily positive sex affirmationsConsider supporting our wor...

50 MINJUN 5
Comments
Listener Question – What Do I Do When My Wife Chooses Grandmother Role Over Intimate Lover

Amidst the Chaos - Brief Note

No notes today…No episode today…No words…

1 MINJUN 3
Comments
Amidst the Chaos - Brief Note

Emily Nagoski – Best Selling Author and Sex Educator - A Wellness Ren CrossOver

EThis week we are sharing a full and uncut episode Judy did 1 year ago, May of 2019, from the Wellness Renaissance Podcast Archives. This is the full recording of that podcast. It was a fantastic interview and we wanted to share it and Emily with you all.Enjoy…. Emily is a Sex Educator, an expert on women’s sexual well-being, healthy relationships, and the prevention of sexual violence and harassment. If her name sounds familiar, you may know her from her best selling book, Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science that will Transform your Sex Life, or various TED talks. (links below) (She also has a recent book with her sister Amelia called, Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle.) So much thought provoking, life changing stuff in here for women and anyone else who has ever had sex, might have sex or born from someone having sex! What did we talk about?? How cultural narratives have changed over time, what it teaches us right away when someone assigns us as a boy or g...

74 MINMAY 23
Comments
Emily Nagoski – Best Selling Author and Sex Educator - A Wellness Ren CrossOver

A Late Mothers Day Tribute - Explorations of MILFS and GILFS

ENOTE… no, we are sorry… Chris Collingwood of Fountains of Wayne/Stacy’s Mom fame is alive and well! Sadly, however, the base player… and famous for MANY other cool things, Adam Schlesinger, did die on April 1st from complications of Covid-19. HAPPY late MOTHERS DAY! An appreciation to all the Mom’s out there… for if they didn’t exist… neither would we. What did we talk about? The popularity of MILFs Mom… she is a sexual creature. Permission to BE a sexual creature. MILFS… what is the intrigue? The draw? The complexity… The nurturer Shame Taboo Incestuous intrigue She is through a lot of the relationship drama Knows what she wants or excited to explore. The draw and honor of being chosen BY a MILF She is a teacher She ix experienced, in tune with her sexuality. Ready to enjoy the experience and pleasure. Confident. She can take control. Why MILF instead of a dominatrix? Why not a DILF? OLD PEOPLE HAVE SEX!! Get used to it and embrace it! Happy mother’s day to anyone with ...

52 MINMAY 15
Comments
A Late Mothers Day Tribute - Explorations of MILFS and GILFS

Will My Partner Know I Have Had Sex with Another Person After Sex with Him

EA listener dropped us a note with a question”44″“Can my boyfriend know that I’ve made love with another guy after making love with him?” We explore the physical and biological aspects of this question… as opposed to the ethical conundrum. Does your body give you away?BiologyPenis or toy sizeHow close the timing of events are and how long it takes your body to recover, How tuned into you your partner is to you and your body Hygiene Safe sex practicesEtc. We share some responses from men who kindly respond with their experiences and thoughts around this question… can you tell if your partner has had sex with another person before you. Gang bangs… 300… OOFDAH!? YOU GO Annabel Chong! (Annabel never got paid her 10k… so say the interwebs. COME ON RON JERAMY… WHAT IS UP WITH THAT!?!) Episiotomies… Be aware of your surgeon’s plan to give you good “customer service” with an extra stitch that may cause some serious pain afterwards. Thank YOU for listening! We truly appreciate ...

44 MINMAY 9
Comments
Will My Partner Know I Have Had Sex with Another Person After Sex with Him

Alien Sex Fantasies

EInspired by the UFO sightings in Duluth. https://mix108.com/there-have-been-two-ufo-sightings-in-the-duluth-area-in-2020/(OK, it was on the list but it rose to the top due to the articles Judy read about recent sightings in Duluth, MN.) Lots to explore here… this is what we touched on. A popular fetish. Exophilia is the love of strange, new, extraterrestrial, robotic, supernatural, or otherwise non-human life-forms. It can be considered as a sexual form of neophilia. People with exophilia have a desire to be with non-human life forms, but that are essentially human in an alien form. It also is linked to the belief of otherworldly entities, energies, and/or beings. Mythos from other cultures tell of spirit/alien/demigod/etc. couplings with humans that are sexual in nature, which gives hint that perhaps at one time exophilia was possibly more common. (From Wikipedia) One thing it is missing… enthusiastic consent. The book and movie Entity??… I did NOT find the book or movie to matc...

73 MINMAY 2
Comments
Alien Sex Fantasies

A Penis Episode Follow Up… Why Can’t We All Just Get Along?

After listening to our penis episodes we thought a few things maybe came out NOT as we had intended…. This week was kinda the conversation we were going to have last week… NEXT week… Alien sex…. But, listen to this first!) WHAT WE TALKED ABOUT Social distancing with a loved one… Do you need your alone time? Toilet paper… we share our views and current situations in our homes about the proper toilet paper direction for US! (Yep… we got deep out of the gate on this one!) “The whole world just needs to accept everybody’s differences.” – Patricia Getting to know each other authentically as individuals. Body positivity. Making judgment… our fight or flight response…Comes from a place of…Fear of lossFear of rejectionFear of failureFear of the unknown Ahhh, the challenges of being human… Wanting to say the right thing at the right time. Charms school anyone?? Asking permission to create welcome spaces to receive your observations in conversations. PATRICIA’S CURRENT OFFERIN...

65 MINAPR 24
Comments
A Penis Episode Follow Up… Why Can’t We All Just Get Along?

A Paisley Journey - Sex in a Box, Bliss, Tea-gasms, Communication and Connecting

EPatricia and I had a lovely conversation. We went in with a topic that we never quite got to… I present to you, the finished product. Enjoy our philosophical therapy session. Here is what we talked about STUFF LOTS of stuff De-stressing and EscapismWhy do we have this small box that we put sex into? The resistance of acknowledging it is all around us in various forms and flavors. Connection!Finding soul focus from ego focusTalking to kids about sex.Memories, living in a state of bliss and orgasmsdo we remember the best, the worst?7 levels of energyChoosing bliss…TEA-GASM!! Fill your day with “Tea-Gasms!” Enjoy life!This time we have… right now. Going with the flow or the resistance?How do we get out of the patterns where talking about sex is bad and hard?… no matter where and when we are in life!It’s never too late! RESOURCES FOR PARENTS Book for children The Amazing True Story of How Babies are Made by Fiona Katauskasfionakatauskas.com/the-amazing-true-story-of-how-babies-ar...

89 MINAPR 17
Comments
A Paisley Journey - Sex in a Box, Bliss, Tea-gasms, Communication and Connecting
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