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Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

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Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

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Nicole Byer is single and has been for decades. She’s smart, funny, has a fat ass and loves giving blow jobs. So the question is why is she perpetually single? This podcast is a quest to find that answer. Every week, Nicole invites a comedian, friend, or ex-fling to interview their dating life and figure out her own.

Latest Episodes

Code-Switching (w/ Gabby Sidibe)

EGabby Sidibe (Precious, American Horror Story, Empire) joins Nicole to discuss the problematic expectation to have to code switch at work, why Black women are often dealbreakers for Black men, and the crazy story behind dating a gay man for 3 years. Plus, they chat about watching 90 Day Fiancé in quarantine, and how they get mistaken for each other all the time. Support Black Lives Matter.For a list of resources and ways to help, check outblacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

60 MIN19 h ago
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Code-Switching (w/ Gabby Sidibe)

Fatphobia (w/ Roxane Gay)

EOh boy this is a juicy one. Author Roxane Gay (Bad Feminist, Hunger) joins Nicole to discuss their experiences with institutional racism, dealing with fatphobia in interviews, and how she treated school like a videogame. Then, Roxane shares the story behind eloping, how quarantine is testing the strength of relationships everywhere, and how her wife woo'd her through podcasting. Be an active ally.For a list of resources and ways to help, check outblacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

71 MIN1 w ago
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Fatphobia (w/ Roxane Gay)

Performative Allies (w/ Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman)

E'Do you want to be an active ally, or do you just want to say that out loud?' Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman (Judge/host on Canada's Drag Race, Unreal) joins Nicole to unpack racial traumas from childhood, discuss the systematic racism in society, and rise in performative allies instead of active ones. After the break, Nicole shares her experience finding love at a Lassens. Be an active ally. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

67 MIN2 w ago
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Performative Allies (w/ Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman)

White-Passing Privilege (w/ Ele Woods)

EActress/comedian Ele Woods (The Good Place, CollegeHumor) shares her experiences being White-passing, and how she's using it for good. Her and Nicole discuss rollerblading and sewing in quarantine, and argue why 2020 is actually a good year. Plus, Nicole attends a virtual strip show, and teaches a 12 year old it's OK to pole dance. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate check here:https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates:nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

56 MIN3 w ago
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White-Passing Privilege (w/ Ele Woods)

Sleeping for the Story (w/ The Vixen)

EDrag queen The Vixen (Rupaul's Drag Race S10, host of Black Girl Magic) chats about calling out microaggressions on Drag Race, the type of hate mail they receive, and how appearing on the show lead to an amicable break in their relationship. Plus, they share the secret to flirting (which they learned working at Olive Garden), the fun of having a 'Weekend Boyfriend', and sleeping with someone just for the story. Also, Nicole needs to know the CDC's guidelines on doggy style. What's the safest way to find and lock down a fuckbuddy during quarantine? The Vixen weighs in. For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8Epu Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate click here:https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates:nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/st...

51 MINJUL 17
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Sleeping for the Story (w/ The Vixen)

Black History Year (w/ Bob the Drag Queen)

E"I was just looking for butthole. And then wrapped around the butthole was a really nice, young, Jewish man." Bob the Drag Queen (winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S8) chats about systematic racism, his two partners, and the confusing social construct of dating, and so much more. Plus, Bob shares some wildly embarrassing hookup stories involving race chasers, and offers Nicole a very interesting dating proposition. For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8Epu Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate click here:https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates:nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

70 MINJUL 10
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Black History Year (w/ Bob the Drag Queen)

Dating with Disability (w/ Santina Muha)

EActress and comedian Santina Muha (One Day at a Time, Curb Your Enthusiasm) answers the worst questions to ask someone in a wheelchair, shares some of the aggressive messages she's received on dating apps, and asks to include disability in today's conversation about diversity. Plus, Nicole recaps her experience 'Facetime dating' in quarantine. Support BLM. For a list of resources and places to donate click here:https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates:nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

61 MINJUL 3
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Dating with Disability (w/ Santina Muha)

If You See It, You Can Be It (w/ Kirby Howell-Baptiste)

EActress Kirby Howell-Baptiste (The Good Place, Barry, Why Women Kill) discusses the rise in "Karens", managing life after death, and the reality of the Black experience. Plus, they share personal stories of racial bias, the importance of seeing representation in media, and how to raise a new generation of active allies. Check out @black.owned.everything on Instagram or officialblackwallstreet.com for a list of Black-owned businesses near you. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates:nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

69 MINJUN 26
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If You See It, You Can Be It (w/ Kirby Howell-Baptiste)

Foundations of a Successful Relationship (w/ AJA)

ERapper and former drag queen AJA (RuPaul'sDrag Race S9,All Stars S3) catches up with Nicole on the #BlackLivesMatter protests, discussing Black history erasure and how people can be a good ally in the movement. AJA dishes on Drag Race, admitting they were extremely high on edibles during the filming. Plus, they share how they met their biological parents this year, and provides advice on the foundational layers every successful relationship needs. For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8Epu Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate click here:https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates:nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

64 MINJUN 19
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Foundations of a Successful Relationship (w/ AJA)

How to Date Virtually (w/ Jinkx Monsoon)

E"Sex is always better when you can be yourself during it" Jinkx Monsoon (Winner of Rupaul's Drag Race S5) dishes about fulfilling race chaser fantasies, heteronormative roleplay, how their Grindr use has changed since being on Drag Race, and so much more. Also, Nicole shares the only appropriate time to yell 'NAILED IT' at her. For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8Epu Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate click here:https://linktr.ee/dragher Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates:nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

66 MINJUN 12
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How to Date Virtually (w/ Jinkx Monsoon)

Latest Episodes

Code-Switching (w/ Gabby Sidibe)

EGabby Sidibe (Precious, American Horror Story, Empire) joins Nicole to discuss the problematic expectation to have to code switch at work, why Black women are often dealbreakers for Black men, and the crazy story behind dating a gay man for 3 years. Plus, they chat about watching 90 Day Fiancé in quarantine, and how they get mistaken for each other all the time. Support Black Lives Matter.For a list of resources and ways to help, check outblacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

60 MIN19 h ago
Comments
Code-Switching (w/ Gabby Sidibe)

Fatphobia (w/ Roxane Gay)

EOh boy this is a juicy one. Author Roxane Gay (Bad Feminist, Hunger) joins Nicole to discuss their experiences with institutional racism, dealing with fatphobia in interviews, and how she treated school like a videogame. Then, Roxane shares the story behind eloping, how quarantine is testing the strength of relationships everywhere, and how her wife woo'd her through podcasting. Be an active ally.For a list of resources and ways to help, check outblacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

71 MIN1 w ago
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Fatphobia (w/ Roxane Gay)

Performative Allies (w/ Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman)

E'Do you want to be an active ally, or do you just want to say that out loud?' Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman (Judge/host on Canada's Drag Race, Unreal) joins Nicole to unpack racial traumas from childhood, discuss the systematic racism in society, and rise in performative allies instead of active ones. After the break, Nicole shares her experience finding love at a Lassens. Be an active ally. For a list of resources and ways to help, check out blacklivesmatters.carrd.co. Follow Nicole Byer: Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

67 MIN2 w ago
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Performative Allies (w/ Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman)

White-Passing Privilege (w/ Ele Woods)

EActress/comedian Ele Woods (The Good Place, CollegeHumor) shares her experiences being White-passing, and how she's using it for good. Her and Nicole discuss rollerblading and sewing in quarantine, and argue why 2020 is actually a good year. Plus, Nicole attends a virtual strip show, and teaches a 12 year old it's OK to pole dance. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate check here:https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates:nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

56 MIN3 w ago
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White-Passing Privilege (w/ Ele Woods)

Sleeping for the Story (w/ The Vixen)

EDrag queen The Vixen (Rupaul's Drag Race S10, host of Black Girl Magic) chats about calling out microaggressions on Drag Race, the type of hate mail they receive, and how appearing on the show lead to an amicable break in their relationship. Plus, they share the secret to flirting (which they learned working at Olive Garden), the fun of having a 'Weekend Boyfriend', and sleeping with someone just for the story. Also, Nicole needs to know the CDC's guidelines on doggy style. What's the safest way to find and lock down a fuckbuddy during quarantine? The Vixen weighs in. For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8Epu Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate click here:https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates:nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/st...

51 MINJUL 17
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Sleeping for the Story (w/ The Vixen)

Black History Year (w/ Bob the Drag Queen)

E"I was just looking for butthole. And then wrapped around the butthole was a really nice, young, Jewish man." Bob the Drag Queen (winner of RuPaul's Drag Race S8) chats about systematic racism, his two partners, and the confusing social construct of dating, and so much more. Plus, Bob shares some wildly embarrassing hookup stories involving race chasers, and offers Nicole a very interesting dating proposition. For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8Epu Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate click here:https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates:nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

70 MINJUL 10
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Black History Year (w/ Bob the Drag Queen)

Dating with Disability (w/ Santina Muha)

EActress and comedian Santina Muha (One Day at a Time, Curb Your Enthusiasm) answers the worst questions to ask someone in a wheelchair, shares some of the aggressive messages she's received on dating apps, and asks to include disability in today's conversation about diversity. Plus, Nicole recaps her experience 'Facetime dating' in quarantine. Support BLM. For a list of resources and places to donate click here:https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates:nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

61 MINJUL 3
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Dating with Disability (w/ Santina Muha)

If You See It, You Can Be It (w/ Kirby Howell-Baptiste)

EActress Kirby Howell-Baptiste (The Good Place, Barry, Why Women Kill) discusses the rise in "Karens", managing life after death, and the reality of the Black experience. Plus, they share personal stories of racial bias, the importance of seeing representation in media, and how to raise a new generation of active allies. Check out @black.owned.everything on Instagram or officialblackwallstreet.com for a list of Black-owned businesses near you. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates:nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

69 MINJUN 26
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If You See It, You Can Be It (w/ Kirby Howell-Baptiste)

Foundations of a Successful Relationship (w/ AJA)

ERapper and former drag queen AJA (RuPaul'sDrag Race S9,All Stars S3) catches up with Nicole on the #BlackLivesMatter protests, discussing Black history erasure and how people can be a good ally in the movement. AJA dishes on Drag Race, admitting they were extremely high on edibles during the filming. Plus, they share how they met their biological parents this year, and provides advice on the foundational layers every successful relationship needs. For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8Epu Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate click here:https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates:nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

64 MINJUN 19
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Foundations of a Successful Relationship (w/ AJA)

How to Date Virtually (w/ Jinkx Monsoon)

E"Sex is always better when you can be yourself during it" Jinkx Monsoon (Winner of Rupaul's Drag Race S5) dishes about fulfilling race chaser fantasies, heteronormative roleplay, how their Grindr use has changed since being on Drag Race, and so much more. Also, Nicole shares the only appropriate time to yell 'NAILED IT' at her. For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3fg8Epu Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate click here:https://linktr.ee/dragher Follow Nicole Byer: Tour Dates:nicolebyerwastaken.com/tourdates Twitter:@nicolebyer Instagram:@nicolebyer Facebook:www.facebook.com/nicolebyercomedy Buy Merch:https://www.teepublic.com/stores/nicole-byer?ref_id=964 Order Nicole's book:www.indiebound.org/book/9781524850746

66 MINJUN 12
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How to Date Virtually (w/ Jinkx Monsoon)
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