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What We Can Learn from Hindsight

EHave you ever looked back on a break-up or a big argument with your partner, and thought, “I knew something was wrong.”? Yeah, that’s hindsight for you. But what can do to avoid only acknowledging issues after-the-fact? Not a lot, but we do have thoughts on it to help you avoid making the same mistakes or encountering the same issues in the future. In this episode: * Shop the Kinkery * Feelings of dread * Trying to “fix” things * Knowing something just isn’t “right” * Only admitting or recognizing problems after things blow up. * There’s only one real solution — say something. Thanks to our shout-out level patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Jessica G., Mr. Spock, and Teishu Links from the episode: Friday night (December 4) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EDT (video will not be available after the stream) Subscribe to our newsletter Our mailing address is: PO Box 434, Ocala, FL 34478 Become a proud cricket on Patreon Support the show Subscribe on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow us Twitter Message or friend us on Fetlife Contact us! Shop at The Kinkery Listen to the show: iTunes Google Play Spotify iHeartRadio Your favorite podcast app! Watch the episode:

59 min1 d ago
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What We Can Learn from Hindsight

Our Favorite Sex Toys of 2020 | Kinking Up the Holidays

EWe do this every year, and every year it’s a whirlwind. This week, we’re sharing our favorites from all the toys we used in 2020. Why? Because we love masturbation, sex, orgasms, and sexual pleasure — in and out of our power exchange. We recognize that’s not everyone’s thing, but for those who want more sex and pleasure in their lives, we’re happy to share our favorites. More importantly, we’re also sharing all the sale information we can find for Black Friday (Appropriate because this episode goes live on Black Friday. See what we did there?) Strap-in for a lot of information, but don’t worry, it’s ALL linked below! Happy sex toy shopping and may you have many orgasms through the holidays and into the new year! In this episode: * This week’s sponsor is Elegantly Owned! New postcard project – Mistakes Were Made Elegantly Owned Giveaway KinkCrate Pulse Duo by Hot Octopuss Tenga Spiral We-Vibe Chorus Mystery Vibe Poco (conditional) Candle Wax by Alice’s Beat ‘Ems Kinklab ...

99 min1 w ago
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Our Favorite Sex Toys of 2020 | Kinking Up the Holidays

How We Handle Money in Our D/s Relationship: An Update

EBack in episode 13, we shared how we handle money within our power exchange relationship. Over the years it’s changed a LOT. So we thought we’d revisit the topic to share those changes. In this episode: * This week’s sponsor is Elegantly Owned! New postcard project – Mistakes Were Made * The website got a face lift! We first talked about money back in episode 13. Things have changed but some things remain the same Responsibilities Communication Thanks to our shout-out level patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Jessica G., Mr. Spock, and Teishu Links from the episode: Shop Elegantly Owned – use code BDSMHOLIDAY to save 15 percent in November Elegantly Owned Review (video) Financial Control in Our D/s Relationship (episode 13) Friday night (November 20) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EDT (video will not be available after the stream) Subscribe to our newsletter Our mailing address is: PO Box 434, Ocala, FL 34478 Become a proud cricket on Patreon Support the show Subscribe on YouTube Follow us ...

91 min2 w ago
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How We Handle Money in Our D/s Relationship: An Update

Making Long-Term Promises in D/s Relationships

EWe received a fascinating email about a promise made in a D/s relationship, and it got us thinking about the promises we’ve made and how we feel about “promises.” So let’s talk about it! In this episode: * This week’s sponsor is Elegantly Owned! Comment from listener on promise made to each other in D/s relationship about not having another relationship after one of them dies Promises made when things are easy Promises made based on what you believe in the moment Breaking promises and guilt Communication, communication, communication Thanks to our shout-out level patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Jessica G., Mr. Spock, and Teishu Links from the episode: Shop Elegantly Owned – use code BDSMHOLIDAY to save 15 percent in November Elegantly Owned Review (video) Friday night (November 13) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EDT (video will not be available after the stream) Subscribe to our newsletter Our mailing address is: PO Box 434, Ocala, FL 34478 Become a proud cricket on Patreon Support the...

77 min3 w ago
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Making Long-Term Promises in D/s Relationships

Deciding When to Compromise in BDSM and When Not To

EIn this week’s episode, we take a listener question about BDSM collars and turn it into a larger discussion on compromise (yes, we’ve done that episode before). The dynamics of the question posed got us thinking about how we can figure out whether we need to compromise on something we want — and when we shouldn’t compromise at all. In this episode: * This week’s sponsor is Elegantly Owned! Question from listener (Dom) about wanting their partner to wear a collar around their neck, but the submissive not feeling comfortable. They worry not getting what they want will breed resentment in their relationship. Why is a thing important to you? Is there another way to get the feeling/experience? Is this a dealbreaker? Links from the episode: Shop Elegantly Owned – use code BDSMHOLIDAY to save 15 percent in November Elegantly Owned Review (video) Compromise in D/s Relationships (episode 223) Friday night (November 6) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EDT (video will not be available after...

85 minNOV 6
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Deciding When to Compromise in BDSM and When Not To

Public Displays of Kink

EThis week’s episode was inspired by a recent public display of kink that went viral on Twitter and created a big conversation online about what’s acceptable and what isn’t in public. We have thoughts, too. So let’s discuss! In this episode Thanks to everyone who made the Kinkery launch a success Recent viral image How we feel about public displays of kink Arguments that have been made in favor: It’s no different than queer people and PDA Kinky displays aren’t always sexual There’s nothing wrong with shock value Getting kinky in public without anyone knowing Thanks to our shout-out level patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Jessica G., Mr. Spock, Teishu Links from the episode: Vice article outlining issue Friday night (October 30) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EDT (video will not be available after the stream) Subscribe to our newsletter Our mailing address is: PO Box 434, Ocala, FL 34478 Become a proud cricket on Patreon Support the show Subscribe on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow ...

98 minOCT 30
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Public Displays of Kink

Kinks vs. Fetishes

EIs there a difference between a kink and a fetish? What is that difference? Does that difference even matter. This week’s episode is a loose conversation to explore the definitions of those two words and what they mean to us. Like all labels, there may be technical definitions, but we can also use them in ways that work best for us, as well. Or, as some people prefer, ignore labels all together. In this episode: What is a kink What is a fetish How we use those terms Links from the episode: The Kinkery Shop – use code NEWKINKERY through October 25, 2020 to save 15 percent Kinktionary by Ignixia (Amazon link) Friday night (October 23) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EDT (video will not be available after the stream) Subscribe to our newsletter Our mailing address is: PO Box 434, Ocala, FL 34478 Become a proud cricket on Patreon Support the show Subscribe on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow us Twitter Message or friend us on Fetlife Contact us! Listen to the show: iTunes Google Pl...

65 minOCT 23
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Kinks vs. Fetishes

Special Episode: Introducing the Kinkery

EIt’s here! It’s here! Not just a special Thursday podcast but John Brownstone’s new shop: The Kinkery! This episode ran longer than we intended (typical, lol). A big portion of this episode is us talking about the products. We encourage you to watch that part on YouTube when you can (we’ll include time stamps as soon as possible to make that easier to navigate). Thanks so much for listening! In this episode: Why and how of the Kinkery Discount code (NEWKINKERY) October 22 through October 25; Special discount for kinky patrons (no expiration date) New shop things: International shipping Free first-class shipping in the US on orders of $75 or more Newsletter — sign up and save 10% (cannot be combined with other coupons) Showing off the kinky products Limitations on new items because there’s a pandemic going on Requests for support that don’t require money: reviews, social media, tag us on social media Thanks to our shout-out level patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Jessica G., and Mr. Spo...

102 minOCT 23
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Special Episode: Introducing the Kinkery

When Your Kinks Don’t Align

EWe’ve talked about this in different episodes in the past, but it’s time to give it a standalone episode. Whether in an established power exchange relationship or meeting a new partner, not every kink you have will align with the person you want to get kinky with. What can you do about it? Let’s chat. In this episode: * Special live stream/podcast episode on October 22 at 12pm EDT. We did an episode on compatibility already. Let’s focus on kinks. * Ask yourself these questions: Do other kinks align? How important is this particular kink? Do you feel comfortable getting kinky with other people? Thanks to our shout-out level patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Jessica G., and Mr. Spock Links from the episode: Compatibility in D/s Relationships (episode 213) Friday night (October 16) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EDT (video will not be available after the stream) Subscribe to our newsletter Our mailing address is: PO Box 434, Ocala, FL 34478 Become a proud cricket on Patreon Support the show S...

78 minOCT 16
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When Your Kinks Don’t Align

Understanding Edge Play and Risk in BDSM

EIt’s the start of October — aka Kinktober. We thought it would be fun and appropriate to talk kink. We’re going in hot with a big (and sometimes heavy) topic: edge play, danger, and risk! This isn’t an episode where we think we have a lot of answers. In fact, it’s the first time I’m really exploring my thoughts on the subject. But it’s definitely something we all need to think about. In this episode: What is edge play? Risk assessments Physical risk Mental risk Emotional risk Skill, practice, and mistakes Thanks to our shout-out level patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Jessica G., and Mr. Spock Links from the episode: Kinktionary by Ignixia Evie Lupine: Is BDSM Dangerous? (video) Kinkly definition of edge play Submissive Guide definition of edge play Article on Tabooless.net on edge play Friday night (October 9) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EDT (video will not be available after the stream) Subscribe to our newsletter Our mailing address is: PO Box 434, Ocala, FL 34478 Become a proud c...

78 minOCT 9
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Understanding Edge Play and Risk in BDSM

Latest Episodes

What We Can Learn from Hindsight

EHave you ever looked back on a break-up or a big argument with your partner, and thought, “I knew something was wrong.”? Yeah, that’s hindsight for you. But what can do to avoid only acknowledging issues after-the-fact? Not a lot, but we do have thoughts on it to help you avoid making the same mistakes or encountering the same issues in the future. In this episode: * Shop the Kinkery * Feelings of dread * Trying to “fix” things * Knowing something just isn’t “right” * Only admitting or recognizing problems after things blow up. * There’s only one real solution — say something. Thanks to our shout-out level patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Jessica G., Mr. Spock, and Teishu Links from the episode: Friday night (December 4) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EDT (video will not be available after the stream) Subscribe to our newsletter Our mailing address is: PO Box 434, Ocala, FL 34478 Become a proud cricket on Patreon Support the show Subscribe on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow us Twitter Message or friend us on Fetlife Contact us! Shop at The Kinkery Listen to the show: iTunes Google Play Spotify iHeartRadio Your favorite podcast app! Watch the episode:

59 min1 d ago
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What We Can Learn from Hindsight

Our Favorite Sex Toys of 2020 | Kinking Up the Holidays

EWe do this every year, and every year it’s a whirlwind. This week, we’re sharing our favorites from all the toys we used in 2020. Why? Because we love masturbation, sex, orgasms, and sexual pleasure — in and out of our power exchange. We recognize that’s not everyone’s thing, but for those who want more sex and pleasure in their lives, we’re happy to share our favorites. More importantly, we’re also sharing all the sale information we can find for Black Friday (Appropriate because this episode goes live on Black Friday. See what we did there?) Strap-in for a lot of information, but don’t worry, it’s ALL linked below! Happy sex toy shopping and may you have many orgasms through the holidays and into the new year! In this episode: * This week’s sponsor is Elegantly Owned! New postcard project – Mistakes Were Made Elegantly Owned Giveaway KinkCrate Pulse Duo by Hot Octopuss Tenga Spiral We-Vibe Chorus Mystery Vibe Poco (conditional) Candle Wax by Alice’s Beat ‘Ems Kinklab ...

99 min1 w ago
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Our Favorite Sex Toys of 2020 | Kinking Up the Holidays

How We Handle Money in Our D/s Relationship: An Update

EBack in episode 13, we shared how we handle money within our power exchange relationship. Over the years it’s changed a LOT. So we thought we’d revisit the topic to share those changes. In this episode: * This week’s sponsor is Elegantly Owned! New postcard project – Mistakes Were Made * The website got a face lift! We first talked about money back in episode 13. Things have changed but some things remain the same Responsibilities Communication Thanks to our shout-out level patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Jessica G., Mr. Spock, and Teishu Links from the episode: Shop Elegantly Owned – use code BDSMHOLIDAY to save 15 percent in November Elegantly Owned Review (video) Financial Control in Our D/s Relationship (episode 13) Friday night (November 20) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EDT (video will not be available after the stream) Subscribe to our newsletter Our mailing address is: PO Box 434, Ocala, FL 34478 Become a proud cricket on Patreon Support the show Subscribe on YouTube Follow us ...

91 min2 w ago
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How We Handle Money in Our D/s Relationship: An Update

Making Long-Term Promises in D/s Relationships

EWe received a fascinating email about a promise made in a D/s relationship, and it got us thinking about the promises we’ve made and how we feel about “promises.” So let’s talk about it! In this episode: * This week’s sponsor is Elegantly Owned! Comment from listener on promise made to each other in D/s relationship about not having another relationship after one of them dies Promises made when things are easy Promises made based on what you believe in the moment Breaking promises and guilt Communication, communication, communication Thanks to our shout-out level patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Jessica G., Mr. Spock, and Teishu Links from the episode: Shop Elegantly Owned – use code BDSMHOLIDAY to save 15 percent in November Elegantly Owned Review (video) Friday night (November 13) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EDT (video will not be available after the stream) Subscribe to our newsletter Our mailing address is: PO Box 434, Ocala, FL 34478 Become a proud cricket on Patreon Support the...

77 min3 w ago
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Making Long-Term Promises in D/s Relationships

Deciding When to Compromise in BDSM and When Not To

EIn this week’s episode, we take a listener question about BDSM collars and turn it into a larger discussion on compromise (yes, we’ve done that episode before). The dynamics of the question posed got us thinking about how we can figure out whether we need to compromise on something we want — and when we shouldn’t compromise at all. In this episode: * This week’s sponsor is Elegantly Owned! Question from listener (Dom) about wanting their partner to wear a collar around their neck, but the submissive not feeling comfortable. They worry not getting what they want will breed resentment in their relationship. Why is a thing important to you? Is there another way to get the feeling/experience? Is this a dealbreaker? Links from the episode: Shop Elegantly Owned – use code BDSMHOLIDAY to save 15 percent in November Elegantly Owned Review (video) Compromise in D/s Relationships (episode 223) Friday night (November 6) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EDT (video will not be available after...

85 minNOV 6
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Deciding When to Compromise in BDSM and When Not To

Public Displays of Kink

EThis week’s episode was inspired by a recent public display of kink that went viral on Twitter and created a big conversation online about what’s acceptable and what isn’t in public. We have thoughts, too. So let’s discuss! In this episode Thanks to everyone who made the Kinkery launch a success Recent viral image How we feel about public displays of kink Arguments that have been made in favor: It’s no different than queer people and PDA Kinky displays aren’t always sexual There’s nothing wrong with shock value Getting kinky in public without anyone knowing Thanks to our shout-out level patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Jessica G., Mr. Spock, Teishu Links from the episode: Vice article outlining issue Friday night (October 30) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EDT (video will not be available after the stream) Subscribe to our newsletter Our mailing address is: PO Box 434, Ocala, FL 34478 Become a proud cricket on Patreon Support the show Subscribe on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow ...

98 minOCT 30
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Public Displays of Kink

Kinks vs. Fetishes

EIs there a difference between a kink and a fetish? What is that difference? Does that difference even matter. This week’s episode is a loose conversation to explore the definitions of those two words and what they mean to us. Like all labels, there may be technical definitions, but we can also use them in ways that work best for us, as well. Or, as some people prefer, ignore labels all together. In this episode: What is a kink What is a fetish How we use those terms Links from the episode: The Kinkery Shop – use code NEWKINKERY through October 25, 2020 to save 15 percent Kinktionary by Ignixia (Amazon link) Friday night (October 23) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EDT (video will not be available after the stream) Subscribe to our newsletter Our mailing address is: PO Box 434, Ocala, FL 34478 Become a proud cricket on Patreon Support the show Subscribe on YouTube Follow us on Instagram Follow us Twitter Message or friend us on Fetlife Contact us! Listen to the show: iTunes Google Pl...

65 minOCT 23
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Kinks vs. Fetishes

Special Episode: Introducing the Kinkery

EIt’s here! It’s here! Not just a special Thursday podcast but John Brownstone’s new shop: The Kinkery! This episode ran longer than we intended (typical, lol). A big portion of this episode is us talking about the products. We encourage you to watch that part on YouTube when you can (we’ll include time stamps as soon as possible to make that easier to navigate). Thanks so much for listening! In this episode: Why and how of the Kinkery Discount code (NEWKINKERY) October 22 through October 25; Special discount for kinky patrons (no expiration date) New shop things: International shipping Free first-class shipping in the US on orders of $75 or more Newsletter — sign up and save 10% (cannot be combined with other coupons) Showing off the kinky products Limitations on new items because there’s a pandemic going on Requests for support that don’t require money: reviews, social media, tag us on social media Thanks to our shout-out level patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Jessica G., and Mr. Spo...

102 minOCT 23
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Special Episode: Introducing the Kinkery

When Your Kinks Don’t Align

EWe’ve talked about this in different episodes in the past, but it’s time to give it a standalone episode. Whether in an established power exchange relationship or meeting a new partner, not every kink you have will align with the person you want to get kinky with. What can you do about it? Let’s chat. In this episode: * Special live stream/podcast episode on October 22 at 12pm EDT. We did an episode on compatibility already. Let’s focus on kinks. * Ask yourself these questions: Do other kinks align? How important is this particular kink? Do you feel comfortable getting kinky with other people? Thanks to our shout-out level patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Jessica G., and Mr. Spock Links from the episode: Compatibility in D/s Relationships (episode 213) Friday night (October 16) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EDT (video will not be available after the stream) Subscribe to our newsletter Our mailing address is: PO Box 434, Ocala, FL 34478 Become a proud cricket on Patreon Support the show S...

78 minOCT 16
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When Your Kinks Don’t Align

Understanding Edge Play and Risk in BDSM

EIt’s the start of October — aka Kinktober. We thought it would be fun and appropriate to talk kink. We’re going in hot with a big (and sometimes heavy) topic: edge play, danger, and risk! This isn’t an episode where we think we have a lot of answers. In fact, it’s the first time I’m really exploring my thoughts on the subject. But it’s definitely something we all need to think about. In this episode: What is edge play? Risk assessments Physical risk Mental risk Emotional risk Skill, practice, and mistakes Thanks to our shout-out level patrons: Cdc, Chris A., Jessica G., and Mr. Spock Links from the episode: Kinktionary by Ignixia Evie Lupine: Is BDSM Dangerous? (video) Kinkly definition of edge play Submissive Guide definition of edge play Article on Tabooless.net on edge play Friday night (October 9) YouTube Live Stream at 9:30PM EDT (video will not be available after the stream) Subscribe to our newsletter Our mailing address is: PO Box 434, Ocala, FL 34478 Become a proud c...

78 minOCT 9
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Understanding Edge Play and Risk in BDSM
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