Himalaya: Listen. Learn. Grow.

4.8K Ratings
Open In App
title

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Esther Perel Global Media & Gimlet

1.6K
Followers
7.9K
Plays
Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel

Esther Perel Global Media & Gimlet

1.6K
Followers
7.9K
Plays
OVERVIEWEPISODESYOU MAY ALSO LIKE

Details

About Us

Listen to the incomparable therapist Esther Perel counsel real couples as they reveal the most intimate, personal, and complicated details of the conflicts that have brought them to her door. This season, she takes on open marriage, racism inside an extended family, coming out in a religious home, and chronic infidelity, among other delicate dynamics. Esther creates a space for us to hear our own lives and struggles articulated in the stories of others. So....where should we begin?

Latest Episodes

It's Very Hard to Live with a Saint

EBarely a year into marriage, they're trapped in a cycle of explosive conflict. She can do no right, and he can do no wrong. Programmingnote: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown.

42 MIN3 h ago
Comments
It's Very Hard to Live with a Saint

In This Relationship What Is "I" and What Is "We"?

EThey grew up with traumatic backgrounds, met in college and immigrated to the U.S. together. They've built stability and security, and now one of them longs for more freedom. Programmingnote: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown.

46 MIN2 w ago
Comments
In This Relationship What Is "I" and What Is "We"?

The Chronic Philanderer

EHe's been cheating on her for years, and she's had enough. Now she wants to know: is he in or is he out? Programmingnote: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown.

46 MIN3 w ago
Comments
The Chronic Philanderer

What Would It Take For You to Come Out?

EFour years in, she can't admit she's attracted to her girlfriend, and her family still doesn't know. Programmingnote: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown.

49 MINJUL 9
Comments
What Would It Take For You to Come Out?

You Want Me To Watch The Kids While You Go Out With Another Guy?

They met as religious teenagers and married as virgins. It's the age old story — once you're allowed to be intimate, you no longer want to be. Deciding to open the marriage has brought about huge changes in their sex life, and ruptures in their emotional one. Programmingnote: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown.

46 MINJUL 9
Comments
You Want Me To Watch The Kids While You Go Out With Another Guy?

Season Four Trailer

EA new season of Where Should We Begin? With Esther Perel.

2 MINJUN 19
Comments
Season Four Trailer

Couples Under Lockdown: Lagos, Nigeria

ELast summer they left everything they'd built in Seattle for a chance at a very different life. He took a dreamturn to expand his company and be closer to home; she gave up her nursing job to manage their girls and explore new horizons abroad. COVID-19 hits as they watch the fate of other countries, knowing if it reaches Nigeria with a population of more than 200 million people, it will be devastating. They've been offered a chance to go home, but to what? Leaving Nigeria would mean walking away from everything, but staying could be more than either signed up for. Esther speaks to the couple as Africa begins easing restrictions.

55 MINMAY 15
Comments
Couples Under Lockdown: Lagos, Nigeria

Couples Under Lockdown: New York, New York

EThey have three kids and their volatile marriage has fallen apart.She still hopes to rebuild. He can't get out of there fast enough.Two weeks before COVID-19 forced New Yorkers to shelter in place, they filed for divorce.Now they feel trapped. If he goes he risks not seeing his kids for weeks. If he stays he worries it will thwart his plans to finally leave.Esther urgesthem to thinkabout this present time togetherand not about what kind of future they will have apart.

49 MINAPR 17
Comments
Couples Under Lockdown: New York, New York

Couples Under Lockdown: Bavaria, Germany

EFor the last year they have lived in separatecountries. She took a dream job closer to where she grew up in Germany and he stayed behind with the promisehe would follow soon.Six months turned into a year, which turned into a conversation that questioned the foundation of their marriage.It took the coronavirus to get them back under one roof again.While others might complain about the close quarters, this couple hopes to find themselves in each other again. Esther pushes them to worry less about the love that was, and focus now on the love that is.

55 MINAPR 3
Comments
Couples Under Lockdown: Bavaria, Germany

Couples Under Lockdown: Sicily, Italy

EThey left each other emotionally years ago, but with three kids they have been trying to keep it together.For the last two weeks they find themselves confined to a small apartment in Sicily, Italy — he bears the brunt of the domestic duties at home all day.She must report to the hospital every day to help usher in new life as a midwife.Esther helps them come to terms with what these next few months could look like if they learn to communicate with one another in ways that might save their relationship.

49 MINMAR 25
Comments
Couples Under Lockdown: Sicily, Italy

Latest Episodes

It's Very Hard to Live with a Saint

EBarely a year into marriage, they're trapped in a cycle of explosive conflict. She can do no right, and he can do no wrong. Programmingnote: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown.

42 MIN3 h ago
Comments
It's Very Hard to Live with a Saint

In This Relationship What Is "I" and What Is "We"?

EThey grew up with traumatic backgrounds, met in college and immigrated to the U.S. together. They've built stability and security, and now one of them longs for more freedom. Programmingnote: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown.

46 MIN2 w ago
Comments
In This Relationship What Is "I" and What Is "We"?

The Chronic Philanderer

EHe's been cheating on her for years, and she's had enough. Now she wants to know: is he in or is he out? Programmingnote: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown.

46 MIN3 w ago
Comments
The Chronic Philanderer

What Would It Take For You to Come Out?

EFour years in, she can't admit she's attracted to her girlfriend, and her family still doesn't know. Programmingnote: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown.

49 MINJUL 9
Comments
What Would It Take For You to Come Out?

You Want Me To Watch The Kids While You Go Out With Another Guy?

They met as religious teenagers and married as virgins. It's the age old story — once you're allowed to be intimate, you no longer want to be. Deciding to open the marriage has brought about huge changes in their sex life, and ruptures in their emotional one. Programmingnote: This conversation was recorded before the COVID-19 lockdown.

46 MINJUL 9
Comments
You Want Me To Watch The Kids While You Go Out With Another Guy?

Season Four Trailer

EA new season of Where Should We Begin? With Esther Perel.

2 MINJUN 19
Comments
Season Four Trailer

Couples Under Lockdown: Lagos, Nigeria

ELast summer they left everything they'd built in Seattle for a chance at a very different life. He took a dreamturn to expand his company and be closer to home; she gave up her nursing job to manage their girls and explore new horizons abroad. COVID-19 hits as they watch the fate of other countries, knowing if it reaches Nigeria with a population of more than 200 million people, it will be devastating. They've been offered a chance to go home, but to what? Leaving Nigeria would mean walking away from everything, but staying could be more than either signed up for. Esther speaks to the couple as Africa begins easing restrictions.

55 MINMAY 15
Comments
Couples Under Lockdown: Lagos, Nigeria

Couples Under Lockdown: New York, New York

EThey have three kids and their volatile marriage has fallen apart.She still hopes to rebuild. He can't get out of there fast enough.Two weeks before COVID-19 forced New Yorkers to shelter in place, they filed for divorce.Now they feel trapped. If he goes he risks not seeing his kids for weeks. If he stays he worries it will thwart his plans to finally leave.Esther urgesthem to thinkabout this present time togetherand not about what kind of future they will have apart.

49 MINAPR 17
Comments
Couples Under Lockdown: New York, New York

Couples Under Lockdown: Bavaria, Germany

EFor the last year they have lived in separatecountries. She took a dream job closer to where she grew up in Germany and he stayed behind with the promisehe would follow soon.Six months turned into a year, which turned into a conversation that questioned the foundation of their marriage.It took the coronavirus to get them back under one roof again.While others might complain about the close quarters, this couple hopes to find themselves in each other again. Esther pushes them to worry less about the love that was, and focus now on the love that is.

55 MINAPR 3
Comments
Couples Under Lockdown: Bavaria, Germany

Couples Under Lockdown: Sicily, Italy

EThey left each other emotionally years ago, but with three kids they have been trying to keep it together.For the last two weeks they find themselves confined to a small apartment in Sicily, Italy — he bears the brunt of the domestic duties at home all day.She must report to the hospital every day to help usher in new life as a midwife.Esther helps them come to terms with what these next few months could look like if they learn to communicate with one another in ways that might save their relationship.

49 MINMAR 25
Comments
Couples Under Lockdown: Sicily, Italy
hmly
Welcome to Himalaya LearningDozens of podcourses featuring over 100 experts are waiting for you.